Consent is a grey area? A comparison of understandings of consent in Fifty Shades of Grey and on the BDSM blogosphere

Sexualities

Volumn 16, Issue 8, 2013, Pages 896-914

  Barker, Meg ^a  

^a OPEN UNIVERSITY   (United Kingdom)

Author keywords

Abuse; BDSM; consent; Fifty Shades; gender; kink; power

Indexed keywords

EID: 84890143934     PISSN: 13634607     EISSN: 14617382     Source Type: Journal    
DOI: 10.1177/1363460713508881     Document Type: Article

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