Adult children's experiences with their parent's infidelity: Communicative protection and access rules in the absence of divorce

Communication Studies

Volumn 60, Issue 1, 2009, Pages 32-48

  Thorson, Allison R ^a  

^a UNIVERSITY OF NEBRASKA LINCOLN   (United States)

Author keywords

Communication Privacy Management (CPM); Family Communication; Parental Infidelity; Qualitative

Indexed keywords

EID: 84868326926     PISSN: 10510974     EISSN: 17451035     Source Type: Journal    
DOI: 10.1080/10510970802623591     Document Type: Article

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