Wives’ experience of husbands’ pornography use and concomitant deception as an attachment threat in the adult pair-bond relationship

Sexual Addiction and Compulsivity

Volumn 16, Issue 3, 2009, Pages 210-240

  Zitzman, Spencer T ^a   Butler, Mark H ^b  

^a LDS Family Services   (United States)

^b BRIGHAM YOUNG UNIVERSITY   (United States)

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EID: 84859651983     PISSN: 10720162     EISSN: 15325318     Source Type: Journal    
DOI: 10.1080/10720160903202679     Document Type: Article

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