Reflecting on acts of kindness toward the self: Emotions, generosity, and the role of social norms

Journal of Positive Psychology

Volumn 7, Issue 1, 2012, Pages 45-56

  Exline, Julie J ^a   Lisan, Adrienne Morck ^b   Lisan, Elianna R ^c  

^a CASE WESTERN RESERVE UNIVERSITY   (United States)

^b CLEVELAND STATE UNIVERSITY   (United States)

^c UNIVERSITY OF ALBERTA   (Canada)

Author keywords

altruism; gratitude; helping; love; reciprocity

Indexed keywords

EID: 84855917439     PISSN: 17439760     EISSN: 17439779     Source Type: Journal    
DOI: 10.1080/17439760.2011.626790     Document Type: Article

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