“That dear octopus”: A family-based model of intimacy

The Family Communication Sourcebook

Volumn , Issue , 2006, Pages 183-200

  Foley, Megan K ^a   Duck, Steve ^a  

^a UNIVERSITY OF IOWA   (United States)

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EID: 79959912492     PISSN: None     EISSN: None     Source Type: Book    
DOI: 10.4135/9781452233024.n10     Document Type: Chapter

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