Lapsus Linguae, or A Slip of the Tongue?: A Sexual Violation in an Analytic Treatment and its Personal and Theoretical Aftermath

Contemporary Psychoanalysis

Volumn 47, Issue 1, 2011, Pages 35-79

  Dimen, Muriel ^a  

^a NEW YORK UNIVERSITY   (United States)

Author keywords

Enactment; Erotic countertransference; Ethics; Feminism; Patriarchy; Silence

Indexed keywords

EID: 79955514705     PISSN: 00107530     EISSN: None     Source Type: Journal    
DOI: 10.1080/00107530.2011.10746441     Document Type: Article

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