Sense of entitlement in couple relationships: An attachment theory perspective

American Journal of Psychoanalysis

Volumn 71, Issue 1, 2011, Pages 37-57

  Tolmacz, Rami ^a  

^a BAR ILAN UNIVERSITY   (Israel)

Author keywords

attachment theory; couple relationships; entitlement

Indexed keywords

ARTICLE; FAMILY SIZE; HUMAN; HUMAN RELATION; OBJECT RELATION; PERSONALITY; PSYCHOANALYTIC THEORY;

FAMILY CHARACTERISTICS; HUMANS; INTERPERSONAL RELATIONS; OBJECT ATTACHMENT; PERSONALITY; PSYCHOANALYTIC THEORY;

EID: 79952556491     PISSN: 00029548     EISSN: 15736741     Source Type: Journal    
DOI: 10.1057/ajp.2010.40     Document Type: Article

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