Which comforting messages really work Best? A different perspective on Lemieux and Tighe's “Receiver Perspective”

Communication Research Reports

Volumn 22, Issue 2, 2005, Pages 87-100

  Burleson, Brant R ^a   Samter, Wendy ^b   Jones, Susanne M ^c   Kunkel, Adrianne ^d   Holmstrom, Amanda J ^a   Mortenson, Steven T ^e   MacGeorge, Erina L ^a  

^a PURDUE UNIVERSITY   (United States)

^b BRYANT UNIVERSITY   (United States)

^c UNIVERSITY OF MINNESOTA   (United States)

^d UNIVERSITY OF KANSAS   (United States)

^e UNIVERSITY OF DELAWARE   (United States)

Author keywords

Comforting; Emotional Support; Message Effects; Person Centeredness

Indexed keywords

EID: 79952292130     PISSN: 08824096     EISSN: 17464099     Source Type: Journal    
DOI: 10.1080/00036810500130422     Document Type: Article

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