"At least with cheating there is an attempt at monogamy": Cheating and monogamism among undergraduate heterosexual men

Journal of Social and Personal Relationships

Volumn 27, Issue 7, 2010, Pages 851-872

  Anderson, Eric ^a  

^a University of Bath   (United Kingdom)

Author keywords

cheating; men; monogamism; monogamy; relationship; sociology

Indexed keywords

EID: 78349247611     PISSN: 02654075     EISSN: 14603608     Source Type: Journal    
DOI: 10.1177/0265407510373908     Document Type: Article

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