Intrusiveness in romantic relationships: A cross-cultural perspective on imbalances between proximity and autonomy

Journal of Social and Personal Relationships

Volumn 26, Issue 6-7, 2009, Pages 989-1008

  Lavy, Shiri ^a   Mikulincer, Mario ^b   Shaver, Phillip R ^c   Gillath, Omri ^d  

^a ARIEL UNIVERSITY   (Israel)

^b INTERDISCIPLINARY CENTER   (Israel)

^c UNIVERSITY OF CALIFORNIA   (United States)

^d UNIVERSITY OF KANSAS   (United States)

Author keywords

Arab; Culture; Indian; Intrusiveness; Israeli; Qualitative; Relational transgressions; Relationships

Indexed keywords

EID: 72749099274     PISSN: 02654075     EISSN: 14603608     Source Type: Journal    
DOI: 10.1177/0265407509347934     Document Type: Article

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