We Can Work It Out: Age Differences in Relational Pronouns, Physiology, and Behavior in Marital Conflict

Psychology and Aging

Volumn 24, Issue 3, 2009, Pages 604-613

  Seider, Benjamin H ^a   Hirschberger, Gilad ^a   Nelson, Kristin L ^a   Levenson, Robert W ^a  

^a UNIVERSITY OF CALIFORNIA   (United States)

Author keywords

aging; emotion; marital satisfaction; personal pronouns; we ness versus separateness

Indexed keywords

ADULT; AGED; AGING; AROUSAL; ARTICLE; CONTROLLED STUDY; EMOTION; FAMILY CONFLICT; FEMALE; GENDER BIAS; HUMAN; HUMAN EXPERIMENT; INTIMACY; LINGUISTICS; MALE; MARRIAGE; MIDDLE AGED; NORMAL HUMAN; QUALITY OF LIFE;

ADULT; AGED; AGING; AROUSAL; EMOTIONS; FAMILY CONFLICT; FEMALE; GALVANIC SKIN RESPONSE; HEART RATE; HUMANS; LONGITUDINAL STUDIES; MALE; MIDDLE AGED; PERSONALITY INVENTORY; PSYCHOPHYSIOLOGY; SEMANTICS; SEX FACTORS; VERBAL BEHAVIOR;

EID: 70349277168     PISSN: 08827974     EISSN: None     Source Type: Journal    
DOI: 10.1037/a0016950     Document Type: Article

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