Deconstructing the "Mommy Wars": The battle over the best mom

Journal of Feminist Family Therapy

Volumn 20, Issue 3, 2008, Pages 203-219

  Zimmerman, Toni Schindler ^a   Aberle, Jennifer ^a   Krafchick, Jennifer ^a   Harvey, Ashley ^a  

^a Department of Ecosystem Science and Sustainability   (United States)

Author keywords

"Mommy Wars"; Feminist family therapy; Making career choices; Mother blaming; Motherhood; Stay at home mothers; Working mothers

Indexed keywords

EID: 67449099899     PISSN: 08952833     EISSN: 15404099     Source Type: Journal    
DOI: 10.1080/08952830802264524     Document Type: Article

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