The art of comforting

New Ideas in Psychology

Volumn 27, Issue 3, 2009, Pages 343-361

  Miceli, Maria ^a   Mancini, Alessandra ^b   Menna, Palma ^c  

^a INSTITUTE OF COGNITIVE SCIENCES AND TECHNOLOGIES   (Italy)

^b SAPIENZA UNIVERSITY OF ROME   (Italy)

^c UNIVERSITY OF NAPLES FEDERICO II   (Italy)

Author keywords

Comforting; Distress; Empathy; Relief

Indexed keywords

EID: 67349206667     PISSN: 0732118X     EISSN: None     Source Type: Journal    
DOI: 10.1016/j.newideapsych.2009.01.001     Document Type: Article

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