Feeding the hand that bit you: Lesbian daughters at mid-life negotiating parental caretaking

Journal of Lesbian Studies

Volumn 12, Issue 2-3, 2008, Pages 237-254

  Cayleff, Susan E ^a  

^a SAN DIEGO STATE UNIVERSITY   (United States)

Author keywords

Caregivers; Elder care; Elderly parents; Lesbian; Mother daughter relationship

Indexed keywords

AGED; ARTICLE; CAREGIVER; CHILD PARENT RELATION; COST OF ILLNESS; ECONOMICS; ELDERLY CARE; FAMILY RELATION; FEMALE; GENDER IDENTITY; HOME CARE; HUMAN; LESBIAN; LIFE EVENT; MENTAL STRESS; MIDDLE AGED; PSYCHOLOGICAL ASPECT; SATISFACTION;

AGED; CAREGIVERS; COST OF ILLNESS; FAMILY RELATIONS; FEMALE; GENDER IDENTITY; HEALTH SERVICES FOR THE AGED; HOME NURSING; HOMOSEXUALITY, FEMALE; HUMANS; LIFE CHANGE EVENTS; MIDDLE AGED; PARENT-CHILD RELATIONS; PERSONAL SATISFACTION; STRESS, PSYCHOLOGICAL;

EID: 65849474485     PISSN: 10894160     EISSN: 15403548     Source Type: Journal    
DOI: 10.1080/10894160802161398     Document Type: Article

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