What we regret most are lost opportunities: A theory of regret intensity

Personality and Social Psychology Bulletin

Volumn 35, Issue 3, 2009, Pages 385-397

  Beike, Denise R ^a,c   Markman, Keith D ^b   Karadogan, Figen ^b  

^a UNIVERSITY OF ARKANSAS   (United States)

^b OHIO UNIVERSITY   (United States)

^c UNIVERSITY OF ARKANSAS   (United States)

Author keywords

Closure; Cognitive dissonance; Counterfactual thinking; Opportunity; Regret

Indexed keywords

ADAPTIVE BEHAVIOR; ADULT; AGED; ARTICLE; COGNITION; COMPARATIVE STUDY; EMOTION; FEMALE; HUMAN; LIFE EVENT; MALE; MIDDLE AGED; MOTIVATION; PSYCHOLOGICAL THEORY; QUALITY OF LIFE; QUESTIONNAIRE;

ADAPTATION, PSYCHOLOGICAL; ADULT; AGED; COGNITIVE DISSONANCE; EMOTIONS; FEMALE; GOALS; HUMANS; LIFE CHANGE EVENTS; MALE; MIDDLE AGED; PSYCHOLOGICAL THEORY; QUALITY OF LIFE; QUESTIONNAIRES;

EID: 59949086564     PISSN: 01461672     EISSN: 15527433     Source Type: Journal    
DOI: 10.1177/0146167208328329     Document Type: Article

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