Creating and Undermining Social Support in Communal Relationships: The Role of Compassionate and Self-Image Goals

Journal of Personality and Social Psychology

Volumn 95, Issue 3, 2008, Pages 555-575

  Crocker, Jennifer ^a,b   Canevello, Amy ^b  

^a Institute for Social   (United States)

^b UNIVERSITY OF MICHIGAN   (United States)

Author keywords

compassion; goals; relationships; self image; social support

Indexed keywords

ADOLESCENT; ADULT; AFFECT; ARTICLE; CONFLICT; CULTURAL ANTHROPOLOGY; EMPATHY; FEMALE; FRIEND; HUMAN; HUMAN RELATION; LONELINESS; MALE; MOTIVATION; PSYCHOLOGICAL ASPECT; SELF CONCEPT; SOCIAL BEHAVIOR; SOCIAL ENVIRONMENT; SOCIAL SUPPORT; TRUST;

ADOLESCENT; AFFECT; CONFLICT (PSYCHOLOGY); CULTURE; EMPATHY; FEMALE; FRIENDS; GOALS; HUMANS; INTERPERSONAL RELATIONS; LONELINESS; MALE; SELF CONCEPT; SOCIAL ENVIRONMENT; SOCIAL IDENTIFICATION; SOCIAL SUPPORT; TRUST; YOUNG ADULT;

EID: 51449096510     PISSN: 00223514     EISSN: None     Source Type: Journal    
DOI: 10.1037/0022-3514.95.3.555     Document Type: Article

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