A family's coming out process: Systemic change and multiple realities

Contemporary Family Therapy

Volumn 30, Issue 2, 2008, Pages 92-110

  Baptist, Joyce A ^a   Allen, Katherine R ^b  

^a KANSAS STATE UNIVERSITY   (United States)

^b VIRGINIA POLYTECHNIC INSTITUTE AND STATE UNIVERSITY   (United States)

Author keywords

Case study; Coming out; Family system; Social constructionism; Standpoint theory

Indexed keywords

EID: 43349091082     PISSN: 08922764     EISSN: 15733335     Source Type: Journal    
DOI: 10.1007/s10591-008-9057-3     Document Type: Article

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