Extramarital Affairs: Basic Considerations and Essential Tasks in Clinical Work

The Family Journal

Volumn 16, Issue 1, 2008, Pages 13-19

  de Stefano, Jack ^a   Oala, Monica ^a  

^a MCGILL UNIVERSITY   (Canada)

Author keywords

counseling couples; counseling tasks; extramarital affairs; infidelity

Indexed keywords

EID: 42649128710     PISSN: 10664807     EISSN: None     Source Type: Journal    
DOI: 10.1177/1066480707309128     Document Type: Article

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