Not the "other" mother: How language constucts lesbian co-parenting relationships

Journal of GLBT Family Studies

Volumn 3, Issue 2-3, 2007, Pages 267-308

  Brown, Rhonda ^a   Perlesz, Amaryll ^a  

^a LA TROBE UNIVERSITY   (Australia)

Author keywords

Language; Lesbian co mother; Lesbian family; Lesbian parenting

Indexed keywords

EID: 39749136696     PISSN: 1550428X     EISSN: 15504298     Source Type: Journal    
DOI: 10.1300/J461v03n02_10     Document Type: Article

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