Can’t live with ’em, can’t live without ’em: Older mothers’ ambivalence toward their adult children

Contemporary Perspectives in Family Research

Volumn 4, Issue , 2003, Pages 115-132

  Pillemer, Karl ^a  

^a Department of Obstetrics Gynecology   (United States)

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EID: 34247463541     PISSN: 15303535     EISSN: None     Source Type: Book Series    
DOI: 10.1016/S1530-3535(03)04005-6     Document Type: Review

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