The sex addicted mixed-orientation marriage: Examining attachment styles, internalized homophobia and viability of marriage after disclosure

Sexual Addiction and Compulsivity

Volumn 13, Issue 2-3, 2006, Pages 167-193

  Corley, M Deborah ^a   Kort, Joe ^b  

^a Sante Center for Healing   (United States)

^b Joe Kort and Associates   (United States)

Author keywords

[No Author keywords available]

Indexed keywords

ADULT; AVOIDANCE BEHAVIOR; BEHAVIOR THERAPY; BISEXUALITY; CHILD PARENT RELATION; COGNITIVE THERAPY; CONTROLLED STUDY; COPING BEHAVIOR; DIVORCE; EMOTIONAL ATTACHMENT; HOMOPHOBIA; HOMOSEXUALITY; HUMAN; INTERPERSONAL COMMUNICATION; INTIMACY; MAJOR CLINICAL STUDY; MALE; MARITAL THERAPY; MARRIAGE; MEDICAL RECORD REVIEW; PATIENT ATTITUDE; PHYSICAL ATTRACTIVENESS; RAGE; REVIEW; SEXUAL ADDICTION; SEXUAL BEHAVIOR; SEXUAL SATISFACTION;

EID: 33748521237     PISSN: 10720162     EISSN: 15325318     Source Type: Journal    
DOI: 10.1080/10720160600870737     Document Type: Review

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