A family matter: When a spouse comes out as gay, lesbian, or bisexual

Journal of GLBT Family Studies

Volumn 1, Issue 2, 2005, Pages 49-70

  Buxton, Amity P ^a  

^a Straight Spouses Network   (United States)

Author keywords

Bisexual parents; Children of mixed orientation parents; Coming out (or disclosure); Gay; Gay married men; Lesbian; Married bisexuals; Married lesbians; Mixed orientation marriage; Straight spouses

Indexed keywords

EID: 33645765291     PISSN: 1550428X     EISSN: 15504298     Source Type: Journal    
DOI: 10.1300/J461v01n02_04     Document Type: Article

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