Friendly fire: Topical variations in conflict among same- and cross-sex friends

Communication Studies

Volumn 49, Issue 2, 1998, Pages 121-138

  Samter, Wendy ^a   Cupach, William R ^b  

^a UNIVERSITY OF DELAWARE   (United States)

^b ILLINOIS STATE UNIVERSITY   (United States)

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EID: 2942632628     PISSN: 10510974     EISSN: 17451035     Source Type: Journal    
DOI: 10.1080/10510979809368524     Document Type: Article

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