Non-zero-sum collaboration, reciprocity, and the preference for similarity: Developing an adaptive model of close relational functioning

Personal Relationships

Volumn 11, Issue 2, 2004, Pages 135-160

  Cole, Tim ^a   Teboul, Jc Bruno ^a  

^a DEPAUL UNIVERSITY   (United States)

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EID: 2942525070     PISSN: 13504126     EISSN: None     Source Type: Journal    
DOI: 10.1111/j.1475-6811.2004.00075.x     Document Type: Review

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