"Guys can't say that to guys": Four experiments assessing the normative motivation account for deficiencies in the emotional support provided by men

Communication Monographs

Volumn 72, Issue 4, 2005, Pages 468-501

  Burleson, Brant R ^a   Holmstrom, Amanda J ^a   Gilstrap, Cristina M ^b  

^a PURDUE UNIVERSITY   (United States)

^b DRURY UNIVERSITY   (United States)

Author keywords

Comforting; Gender Schematicity; Interaction Goals; Message Plans; Sex Differences

Indexed keywords

EID: 28244441195     PISSN: 03637751     EISSN: 14795787     Source Type: Journal    
DOI: 10.1080/03637750500322636     Document Type: Article

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