Engaging Men in Couples Counseling: Strategies for Overcoming Ambivalence and Inexpressiveness

The Family Journal

Volumn 13, Issue 4, 2005, Pages 383-391

  Englar Carlson, Matt ^a   Shepard, David S ^a  

^a CALIFORNIA STATE UNIVERSITY   (United States)

Author keywords

couples counseling; emotional inexpressiveness; gender; masculinity; men; men in counseling

Indexed keywords

EID: 26444440048     PISSN: 10664807     EISSN: None     Source Type: Journal    
DOI: 10.1177/1066480705278467     Document Type: Article

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