The ‘Fair Deal’? Unpacking Accounts of Reciprocity in Heterosex

Sexualities

Volumn 6, Issue 2, 2003, Pages 237-261

  Braun, Virginia ^a   Gavey, Nicola ^a   Mcphillips, Kathryn ^b  

^a UNIVERSITY OF AUCKLAND   (New Zealand)

^b Auckland HELP Foundation   (New Zealand)

Author keywords

coital imperative; discourse; heterosex; orgasm; reciprocity

Indexed keywords

EID: 21244436237     PISSN: 13634607     EISSN: 14617382     Source Type: Journal    
DOI: 10.1177/1363460703006002005     Document Type: Article

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