Critiquing the "good enough" mother: A perspective based on the Murik of Papua Now Guinea

Ethos

Volumn 32, Issue 4, 2004, Pages 514-537

  Barlow, Kathleen ^a  

^a CENTRAL WASHINGTON UNIVERSITY   (United States)

Author keywords

Feminist anthropology; Melanesia; Mothering; Psychoanalytic theory

Indexed keywords

EID: 13244283117     PISSN: 00912131     EISSN: None     Source Type: Journal    
DOI: 10.1525/eth.2004.32.4.514     Document Type: Review

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