Treating the lesbian batterer: Theoretical and clinical considerations - A contemporary psychoanalytic perspective

Journal of Aggression, Maltreatment and Trauma

Volumn 7, Issue 1-2, 2003, Pages 159-205

  Coleman, Vallerie E ^a  

^a NONE   (United States)

Author keywords

Affect regulation; Attachment theory; Borderline personality disorder; Domestic violence; Lesbian battering; Narcissistic personality disorder; Pathological vindictiveness; Psychoanalytic theory; Shame

Indexed keywords

ADULT; AFFECT; BORDERLINE STATE; CASE REPORT; EGO DEVELOPMENT; EMOTIONAL ATTACHMENT; FEMALE; HUMAN; LESBIAN; NARCISSISM; PARTNER VIOLENCE; PSYCHOANALYSIS; PSYCHOANALYTIC THEORY; PSYCHOLOGICAL ASPECT; REVIEW; RISK FACTOR; SHAME; TREATMENT PLANNING;

EID: 0042972652     PISSN: 10926771     EISSN: None     Source Type: Journal    
DOI: 10.1300/J146v07n01_08     Document Type: Review

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