Did mom really love you best? Developmental histories, status transitions, and parental favoritism in later life families

Motivation and Emotion

Volumn 24, Issue 2, 2000, Pages 105-120

  Suitor, J Jill ^a   Pillemer, Karl ^b  

^a LOUISIANA STATE UNIVERSITY   (United States)

^b Department of Obstetrics Gynecology   (United States)

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EID: 0034194937     PISSN: 01467239     EISSN: None     Source Type: Journal    
DOI: 10.1023/A:1005663215063     Document Type: Article

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