The management and production of risk in romantic relationships: A postmodern paradox

Journal of Family History

Volumn 25, Issue 1, 2000, Pages 63-92

  Bulcroft, Richard ^a   Bulcroft, Kris ^b   Bradley, Karen ^b   Simpson, Carl ^b  

^a UNIVERSITY OF BRITISH COLUMBIA   (Canada)

^b WESTERN WASHINGTON UNIVERSITY   (United States)

Author keywords

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Indexed keywords

ARTICLE; CLASSIFICATION; ETHNOLOGY; FAMILY SIZE; HIGH RISK BEHAVIOR; HISTORY; HUMAN; HUMAN RELATION; LOVE; MARRIAGE; NORTH AMERICA; PSYCHOLOGICAL ASPECT; SEXUALITY; SOCIAL STATUS; STATISTICS;

FAMILY CHARACTERISTICS; HISTORY, 16TH CENTURY; HISTORY, 17TH CENTURY; HISTORY, 18TH CENTURY; HISTORY, 19TH CENTURY; HISTORY, 20TH CENTURY; HUMANS; INTERPERSONAL RELATIONS; LOVE; MARRIAGE; NORTH AMERICA; RISK-TAKING; SEXUAL PARTNERS; SOCIAL CONDITIONS;

EID: 0033633344     PISSN: 03631990     EISSN: None     Source Type: Journal    
DOI: 10.1177/036319900002500105     Document Type: Article

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