Destructive conflict in nonviolent couples: A treatment guide

Journal of Emotional Abuse

Volumn 1, Issue 3, 1999, Pages 65-85

  Siegel, Judith P ^a  

^a NEW YORK UNIVERSITY   (United States)

Author keywords

Countertransference; Couples treatment; High arousal; Integrated approach; Schema; Splitting; Structure

Indexed keywords

ABUSE; AROUSAL; COGNITION; CONFLICT; COUNTER TRANSFERENCE; EMOTION; HUMAN; HUMAN RELATION; OBJECT RELATION; PSYCHOTHERAPY; REVIEW; VIOLENCE;

EID: 0032798987     PISSN: 10926798     EISSN: None     Source Type: Journal    
DOI: 10.1300/J135v01n03_04     Document Type: Review

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